My friend won £5,000 on a wedding favour scratch card – now she’s not talking to me after I suggested sharing her winnings with the bride

A wedding guest has revealed how she landed herself in hot water after a fellow pal won £5,000 on a wedding favour scratch card, which she suggested she share with the bride. 

Writing on Reddit, the woman, from the UK, explained that her friend won the cash prize at a mutual friend’s wedding in Cyprus, but things soured after she asked how much she would be giving to the newlyweds. 

She said her friend, who won the money with her partner after the scratch cards were handed out to guests, became upset and neither of them have spoken to her since. 

Users online said the woman should have ‘minded her own business’ because the couple were under ‘no obligation to share the winnings’. 

A woman asked if she was in the wrong for suggesting her friends to share their wedding favour scratch card winnings with the bride and groom on Reddit (stock image) 

The post read: ‘Am I the a*****e for making my friend feel awkward for not sharing her lottery winnings? 

‘Last week I was a bridesmaid at my best friend’s wedding – which was a destination wedding in Cyprus. Whole day was lovely, we had a wonderful time!

‘For context I have a close friend group of ten, all couples and we all decided to make a big holiday of it and rented a villa for ten days, with the wedding on the 5th.

‘As part of the wedding favours the bride and groom gave everyone a lottery scratch card in a cute little pouch. We all sat down to eat and while we were waiting, one of our friend group (call her Sarah) started jumping up and down shouting she had won £5,000 on the scratch card.

‘The whole room erupted in applause, and the bride and groom ran over to congratulate them. It was already a very happy occasion but this just made it even better.

‘The next day, we all sat down to breakfast in the villa and were chatting about the wedding and Paul and Sarah’s win.’

She continued: ‘They were saying what the planned to do with the winnings and everyone was asking questions and I casually asked how much of it they were going to give to the bride and groom.

‘There was no agenda behind my question – I didn’t ask because I was trying to hint that they should this, it just never occurred to me as a possibility that they wouldn’t give at least a small amount as a belated wedding gift to the bride and groom, given they wouldn’t have had the ticket without them.

‘Sarah and Paul both went very quiet, and Paul said they weren’t going to give them anything. We sat in awkward silence for a bit, and Sarah got up and walked out.

‘Later by the pool it was clear Sarah had been crying and Paul said I was the a****** for making them feel awkward and implying they were cheap. 

Taking to Reddit, the woman from the UK explained that her friends won £5,000 at their other friends wedding in Cyprus

Taking to Reddit, the woman from the UK explained that her friends won £5,000 at their other friends wedding in Cyprus

‘I apologise and said that’s not what I meant: I just said it because that’s what I would do in their situation, but it is their money and their decision so they should do what they want with the money (I forget exactly how I worded it – but that was the gist). Paul’s walked off and neither of them spoke to me for the rest of the holiday or since.

‘Speaking with the rest of our friend group and my partner they have said they agree, they should give something to the bride and groom as a thank you, but also said that while it wasn’t my intention my question did made the situation awkward.’

One person wrote: ‘You have no idea what Paul and Sarah might need that money for (even if you think you know). 

‘The lotto ticket was a gift, so they have no obligation to share the winnings with anyone. But you just had to put them on the spot and implicitly pressured them to do what you think you would have done with the money if you had won instead.’

People rushed to the comments with many saying the woman should have 'minded her own business' as the couple were under 'no obligation to share the winnings'

People rushed to the comments with many saying the woman should have ‘minded her own business’ as the couple were under ‘no obligation to share the winnings’

Another said: ‘Yikes. The scratch card was a gift to them. There was a lot of presumption and implied judgment in your question and your subsequent conversation with them (which made you look even worse), whether you meant it or not. Mind your own business in the future.’

Someone else wrote: ‘£5,000 is a great win but it’s not so much they can share it without making their windfall pretty meaningless to them in the end and because of the way you phrased the question you stopped them from making a kind gesture themselves and turned it into an obligation where the amount they decided to share would then be an issue for people to question if it was “enough” or not. 

‘It’s such a shame you turned something nice for them into something that made them sad.

‘The bride and groom did a nice fun thing. They’ll have had wedding gifts and attention on their special day. Is that not enough?’

While a fourth wrote: ‘They probably already got them a wedding present. They’re under no obligation to give them more, especially from a gift that they were given by the hosts.’