A mother has sparked a debate online after revealing that she asked her husband to save her life instead of that of their baby if something went wrong during child birth.
The unnamed mother, thought to be from Mexico, took to Reddit to explain how she suffered from gestational diabetes and was forced to have a cesarean.
Ahead of the birth of their daughter, which took place two years ago, the mother discussed her thoughts with her husband, who agreed with her.
However during a recent conversation with her friends recently, the topic came up and she told them she would have the same stance if she got pregnant again, upon which they called her an ‘a*****e for ‘asking her husband to kill their baby’.
Taking to the discussion forum, the mother asked other parents what they thought of the situation – most of whom agreed with her.
The unnamed mother, thought to be from Mexico, took to Reddit to explain that she asked her husband to save her life instead of that of their baby if something went wrong during child birth
She wrote: ‘So my daughter was born 2 years ago, I had a very good pregnancy but develop gestational diabetes at 32 weeks (due to me being overweight I was checking my sugar levels every other day).
‘Due to this my OBGYN schedule a cesarean I didn’t have any issues with this I just wanted my baby to be born safely.’
Revealing her husband’s reaction, she said: ‘So before going in to the hospital I talked with my husband that if something where to happened and he needed to choose between myself and our baby to please choose me. He got quiet but said that he agreed and that please let me mother know about what we talked.
‘Everything went according to plan and both of us where completely fine.’
Most users agreed with the mother, arguing they could make another child
Talking about her friends’ reactions as she revealed she was planning for a second baby, she continued: ‘Now fast forward to now trying for number two and in a Christmas party with my girlfriends the topic was brought up about babys. There’s another friend that is also trying so the topic of conversation was on that for a good hour.
‘I said that I straight told my husband again that I’m scared that something may happened to me during the birth and in the hopes of giving my daughter a sibling I could leave her without a mother. That the original agreement stands that he needs to choose me if that’s the case.’
Revealing her friends’ reactions,she said: ”My friends where disgusted with my thinking and said that I was an a*****e to my husband in asking him to basically kill his baby (those where the exact words), that I was a very negative person and that I needed to rethink my thoughts.’
Asking followers their opinion, she concluded: ‘I’m a person that likes to be prepared for the worse case scenario and hope for the best. I didn’t want my husband to be blindsided with who to choose and to have the answer on the spot. Nobody likes to think in what could go wrong specially in a pregnancy but I need to think every possible case that we could encounter.’
One person wrote: ‘It’s your life. You can make another baby, there can’t be another you. Also, if your husband agreed, it’s none of their business’
One person wrote: ‘It’s your life. You can make another baby, there can’t be another you. Also, if your husband agreed, it’s none of their business’.
Another said: ‘Exactly. A widow father with two kids will have a lower quality of life than a healthy mother and father with just one child. I’m not looking down on single fathers by the way! I just think the family would be happier if the mother was alive. They can choose to have future kids but they can’t choose to bring the mother back to life if she dies.’
Revealing she had had the same conversation, one mother wrote: ‘I had a similar conversation with my husband before my daughter was born except I told him he needed to choose her if it came down to it and he flat told me no and then said this almost word for word.
‘If I have to choose, I choose you bc we can try again and again and adopt if need be. We can be parents. But without you there is no we.’
And revealing her parents had been in that situation, another user concluded: ‘My dad was almost in this situation with my mom and I when I was born and honestly I absolutely understand why my dad would choose my mom over me, even if it didn’t end up having to come to that in the end.’
Revealing her parents had been in that situation, another user concluded: ‘My dad was almost in this situation with my mom and I when I was born and honestly I absolutely understand why my dad would choose my mom over me, even if it didn’t end up having to come to that in the end’