A confidence coach has revealed the four phrases to say if someone is rude to you in public – and exactly how to obtain the upper hand.
Gina Hatzis swears by putting bullies and impolite relatives in their place, and believes sweeping insults under the rug leads to long-term resentment.
She recently provided several sentences to keep in your back pocket for the next time you’re faced with a shocking situation.
Gina revealed that for her tactics to work, you need to act like the rude comment did not affect you.
The first step is taking a breath and remaining calm, letting your composure, body language, and tone reflect the nonchalance.
Gina Hatzis swears by putting bullies and rude relatives in their place, and believes sweeping insults under the rug leads to long-term resentment
Phrases to use when someone is rude to you in public
Before responding, make sure you’re calm and collected. The tactics will not work if you’re physically distressed or upset.
* What an odd thing to say out loud.
* I’m surprised you feel comfortable saying that.
* Did you mean to share that with the group?
* Would you mind repeating that?
She shared her advice in a video.
‘Here’s how to respond if anyone says anything rude to you – say in a meeting, or at a family event.
‘You need to calmly say: ‘What an odd thing to say out loud’ or ‘I’m surprised you feel comfortable saying that’.’
Gina also provided two other possible responses depending on the circumstance.
‘You can ask: ‘Did you mean to share that with the group?’ or ‘Would you mind repeating that?’,’ she added.
Asking the person to repeat their rudeness works two-fold because they either ‘repeat it and sound like a complete a**, or they say nothing.’
‘Either way, you win,’ Gina said.
Hundreds thanked her for the advice and swore to remember it the next time a sticky situation arose.
‘I love this! I freeze when people are nasty to me. Then I get mad later when I don’t say anything,’ one said.
‘As a teacher I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have no idea what we have to deal with from parents. Still love teaching but the rudeness and put downs is what’s making me reconsider the job,’ another wrote.
‘I love making them repeat it because then they are over the impulse of reflexively spitting out nonsense and have a chance to listen to themselves,’ a woman shared.