Bride and groom sparks a heated debate for asking guests to contribute to their honeymoon fund

A bride and groom have sparked a heated debate on social media after asking wedding guests to pay for their honeymoon instead of buying them a gift.

One guest shared her dilemma in an Australian Facebook group after she was invited to both the wedding and the bridal shower.

However, she was left confused after the couple asked guests to contribute to their honeymoon fund by transferring the money through an app after they opted out of having a gift registry.

The guest asked the internet whether she should make one large payment for the the bride and groom – or split the money into two transactions for each event.

But not everyone agreed with paying the newlywed’s holiday, with one woman saying: ‘They’re asking for payments? I either wouldn’t give one, or it would be a rather small payment.’

‘I know it’s acceptable to ask for money or  gifts but I’m personally not comfortable with it. I’d suggest give one payment and if you don’t want to turn up to the shower empty handed, maybe take a bottle of champagne,’ one suggested.

Another woman suggested asking the couple where they are going for their honeymoon because ‘you aren’t guaranteed where the money is going’. 

‘See if you can gift them an experience or add to their restaurant tab. You can even upgrade their hotel suite or get things added like champagne on ice. If they get angry about you doing that, then all they want is the money,’ she said.

However, many defended the bride and groom, saying ‘it’s pretty normal’ for couples to ask for money instead of material gifts.

‘Just make a small payment for each occasion through the app. It’s modern times and this is a pretty standard custom these days,’ one woman wrote. 

Another said she believed the couple did nothing wrong by asking guests to contribute to their honeymoon fund.

‘It’s simply saying that if you are planning to give a gift then they would appreciate money. It doesn’t matter what they use it for as it’s a gift,’ she explained.

‘It’s no different to doing a register where you buy what they want… I don’t know why everyone has their knickers in a knot about it.

‘I would just give one amount as normally I would do a bridal shower gift for the bride then wedding gift for the couple. In this case its all going to the couple so only one deposit.’ 

One woman also agreed with her, saying: ‘I personally don’t have an issue with what she’s requested, I’d rather do that then give something that won’t be utilised. 

She said she would do two transactions, one during the bridal shower and the other on the wedding day. 

‘I actually think the direct deposit is a great idea. As I personally very rarely ever have cash on me and would have to make a special trip to get it… direct deposit is so much easier,’ she said.